Look, we've ALL been that pathetic kid stuck on the bench while everyone else played the game we knew would destroy us.
And what did the so-called "caring adults" do?
They shoved us right into the meat grinder anyway. "It'll build character!"
Yeah, right. Character my ass.
And what did the so-called "caring adults" do?
They shoved us right into the meat grinder anyway. "It'll build character!"
Yeah, right. Character my ass.
But Here's The Really Twisted Part...
That same soul-crushing dynamic doesn't just vanish when you hit adulthood. Hell no. It just puts on a business suit and gets more sophisticated.
Now instead of dodge ball humiliation, it's family dinners where you're expected to be the entertainment. It's agreeing to soul-sucking commitments because saying "no" apparently makes you the family villain.
And the absolute worst part?
You end up living like a damn puppet while your real self rots away in some forgotten corner of your mind.
The shame? The guilt? They're like your personal prison wardens, making sure you never even THINK about escaping.
Learning to draw a line in the sand isn't about becoming some heartless monster. It's about basic survival. It's about finally giving yourself permission to be a human being instead of everyone's favorite dancing monkey.
What if the reason you can't set boundaries is because you've been programmed to believe that saying "no" makes you a terrible person?
Yeah, that's terrifying when you've spent your whole life being everyone's "yes man." But here's the thing - it's like building any other skill. The more you flex that boundary muscle, the stronger it gets.
Now instead of dodge ball humiliation, it's family dinners where you're expected to be the entertainment. It's agreeing to soul-sucking commitments because saying "no" apparently makes you the family villain.
And the absolute worst part?
You end up living like a damn puppet while your real self rots away in some forgotten corner of your mind.
The shame? The guilt? They're like your personal prison wardens, making sure you never even THINK about escaping.
But Nobody Wants To Tell You This...
Learning to draw a line in the sand isn't about becoming some heartless monster. It's about basic survival. It's about finally giving yourself permission to be a human being instead of everyone's favorite dancing monkey.
What if the reason you can't set boundaries is because you've been programmed to believe that saying "no" makes you a terrible person?
Yeah, that's terrifying when you've spent your whole life being everyone's "yes man." But here's the thing - it's like building any other skill. The more you flex that boundary muscle, the stronger it gets.
Here's The Kicker...
Those family dynamics that make you want to fake your own death? They're not your circus to manage!
Your ONLY job is to show up as the real you. Not the sanitized, people-pleasing version everyone else wants you to be.
Mahalo and Aloha 🤙🏽
About the Author: Ðean is a multi-disciplinary creative professional who combines artistry with automated business systems. After overcoming significant personal and financial setbacks, he now helps other creative professionals build stable income streams that provide time freedom for their passions. His approach combines the Hawaiian principles of Kokua (helping others) and Ohana (family) with proven direct response marketing strategies.
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