Art of Not Giving a Shit

The Art of Not Giving a Shit About Your "Perfect Plan"

I'm going to be brutally honest with you here...

Your carefully crafted five-year plan?

It's probably garbage.

And that's not just me being a jerk. That's me saving you from the soul-crushing disappointment of watching your "perfect vision" crumble like a sandcastle at high tide.

Here's what nobody tells you about success:

The people who are absolutely CRUSHING IT right now?

They're not the ones white-knuckling their original plan like it's the last life raft on the Titanic.

They're the ones who learned to let that shit go .

Your Rigid Plan Is Secretly Killing You

I've seen it a thousand times...

Someone gets attached to their "vision". They fall in love with HOW things are "supposed" to happen.

Then reality shows up like an uninvited guest at your dinner party and flips the table.

And instead of rolling with it? They double down. They fight. They force.

They lose.

Meanwhile, the person who stayed loose, who kept their eyes open, who trusted their gut when it whispered "hey, maybe try THIS instead"...

That person just made $500K while you were still arguing with the universe about your original plan.

Here's The ONE Thing That Changes Everything

Want to know the secret?

Curiosity over certainty.

I know, I know. Sounds like some hippie nonsense, right?

But stay with me...

When you cultivate genuine curiosity - when you actually EMBRACE different perspectives and possibilities instead of treating them like threats to your precious plan...

Something magical happens.

You start seeing opportunities that were invisible before.

You pivot at exactly the right moment.

You trust your inner guidance instead of some dusty business plan you wrote when you knew less than you know now.

The Dark Truth About "Staying The Course"

You know what "staying the course" really means?

It means you're too scared to admit you might have been wrong.

It means you're more committed to looking consistent than to actually WINNING.

And here's the really dark part...

While you're busy being "committed to your vision", someone else - someone more adaptable, more intuitive, more willing to let go - is eating your lunch.

They're taking your dreams.

They're creating the lifestyle you thought was "yours".

They're enjoying the life you planned for yourself.

All because they weren't joined at the hip to a specific outcome.

So What Do You Actually DO?

Simple. (Not easy, but simple.)

Step 1: Stop treating your plan like scripture.

Seriously. That ideal vision you're clutching? Hold it loosely. Real loosely.

Step 2: Build in "reality check" moments.

Every week - EVERY WEEK - step back and ask yourself: "Is this still aligned with what I actually want? Or am I just doing this because I said I would?"

Step 3: Listen to that little voice.

You know the one. The one that says "hey, maybe we should try this instead" right before your logical brain screams "NO! STICK TO THE PLAN!"

That voice? That's your intuition. And it's probably smarter than your plan.

Step 4: Get comfortable with pivoting.

The most successful people I know have pivoted at least three times. The struggling ones? Still executing version 1.0 of a plan that stopped working two years ago.

The Bottom Line (Because I Know You're Busy)

You want more joy?

You want less stress?

You want to actually ENJOY creating your life instead of feeling like you're dragging a corpse uphill?

Let. Go. Of. The. Outcome.

Not the goal. Not the vision.

The specific, rigid, "it has to happen THIS way" outcome.

Stay curious. Stay open. Trust your gut when it tells you to zig instead of zag.

Because here's what I've learned after observing hundreds of people transform their lives:

The ones who make it big aren't the ones with the best plans.

They're the ones who were willing to burn their plans when something better showed up.

Are you willing to do that?

Or are you going to keep white-knuckling your way to mediocrity?

Your call.

 

Mahalo and Aloha 🤙🏽

 

About the Author: Ðean is a multi-disciplinary creative professional who combines personal experience with self expression. After overcoming significant hidden and personal setbacks, he now helps others unblock creative freedoms that provide time access for their passions. His approach combines the Hawaiian principles of Kokua (helping others) and Ohana (family) with proven strategies to leverage states of being and release the flow, which ultimately expresses our own personal journey.