The Solemn Poser

 We can choose whoever we want to be, and because of that - freedom of choice at times can be a huge problem.

Co dependent behavior starts here, and in most times with good intentions. The predicament is that when we are faced with situations which causes us to feel a sense of shame and a sense of not belonging, for who we are or the way we act - the choices we make after that can have a drastic effect on how we choose to live out the rest of our lives.

The Little Boy That Could

I remember a story of a boy, who at the beach one day was at a family gathering. The little boy watched as campers next to them were putting their tents up and getting ready to leave. While admiring their uniforms and the sense of teamwork, the boy exclaims that he'd like to be a Boy Scout someday.

The little boys father then tells him in a playful tone, "you can't even make your bed". Some of the family members giggled and others who felt sorry for the boy remained quiet.

Seeds of Resentment

When we start to see ourselves as inferior to ourselves. This false sense of empowerment can cause resentments that can start a snowball effect of hypocrisy in one's life. And a way to reinforce an oath to oneself that we are worthless in the eyes of those who can do better than us.

This can spread to beliefs of lack which in turn shifts our focus to more of that, and thus begins the spiral cycle of the poverty stricken mindset.

And in a proud stance the solemn poser now has the ability to strike down the hypocrisy of others and deny their own actions which are exactly the same.

Eliminating Generational Curses

A way to overcome this is to shift out of the poverty mindset, and envision oneself of tangible and sacred value.

Our family histories are riddled with stories of shame & grief which can lead to many forms of destructive behavior which are passed on.

The feeling of shame has been clinically tested to be of the lowest resonance closest to death. And anger rates much higher, which can be better because now it causes one to take action - whether it be positive or negative.

Knowing how we are triggered and how we can transmute those feelings and make positive actions everyday is real growth.

Another key is to let go of the things that we don't have control over. So that we can release ourselves from the false responsibility and needless energy spent on those things. And put more attention on repairing our beliefs, the way we perceive oneself and the healthy choices we can make to better our lives.

When we share these things with our loved ones, we begin to spread exponential success because now this brings to light all of these problems that are real and manageable.

Aloha & Mahalo! 🤙🏽